Love’s not a vibe - it’s a vision.

Love can light you up or burn you down—but it was never meant to leave you empty. We’re doing a fresh take on how love works in 2025. In a world that’s swiped left on God’s design for dating, sex, marriage, and love, this series pulls the curtain back on what real love looks like when heaven writes the story. No matter whether you’re new to church or a seasoned believer, this series will challenge and comfort your notions on all things love. From first dates to lifelong vows, from desire to devotion, we’ll learn that love isn’t something you fall into—it’s something you build on purpose, with Jesus at the center.

Watch The Messages

Offensive Grace | Part 2 - The Economics of Grace

Nov 2, 2025 • Alistair Cochrane

Offensive Grace | Part 1 - The Inclusivity of Grace

Oct 26, 2025 • Daniel Indradjaja

Offensive Grace // The Older Brother

Oct 26, 2025 • Alistair Cochrane

Small Group Discussion Questions

Below you will find access to each week's discussion questions!

Week 1 | Dating

We cannot live right or love right if we don’t first learn to think right. In everything, but especially in the context of relationships, God is not the author of confusion, but rather, of peace. When we find ourselves confused,we need to get back to God’s intentions and find that He offers us clarity and confidence in our purpose, plans, and relational pursuits.

Icebreaker:
Valentine’s Day This or That:
A box of chocolates or sweet tarts?
A home-cooked meal or a fancy restaurant?
Rom Com or an action movie?
Plan your valentines or have someone else plan it?

Discussion Questions:
1. What stood out to you the most about this message?
2. Were there any quotes or verses that stood out?
3. Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you felt as though you lost your purpose? List some ways you can combat those feelings.
4. What are some ways you can remind yourself of your value?
5. Which of these points, (you have a purpose, god has a plan; take off the pressure; stand for purity; lean on your people; don’t give up the pursuit), resonated the most with you? Which do you think is the most valuable for people today to learn from?
6. Any additional thoughts on this week’s message?

Week 2 | Love

Your love life impacts all of your life. Discover what true love looks like, how to be capable of loving others, and how to be perfectly loved.

Icebreaker:
What is your Starbucks order?

Discussion Questions:
1. What was your application from last week? How did that go?
2. Reread the scripture references from this week’s message. What strikes you the most from these verses?
3. To recap this week: What was the overall message and points?
4. What’s one part of this week’s sermon that stood out to you as helpful or insightful?
5. Which other verses and/or quotes from this week’s message stood out to you?
6. What’s one thing you plan to apply this week? What are some obstacles to applying this to your life?
7. Any additional thoughts, comments, or questions based on this week’s message?

Week 3 | Marriage

God saw the need for companionship so He created marriage. Discover what you should think about when you think about marriage so your relationship will be sweet, strong, and centered on God.

Icebreaker:
Do you have any traditions with loved ones?

Discussion Questions:
1. What stood out to you the most about this message?
2. Was there a quote or verse that stood out in this message?
3. Which point that Jennie made about marriage (marriage needs a firm foundation, marriage is meant to be focused and a fortress, marriage is meant to be a flowing fountain, marriage is meant to be frisky and fiery and fun, marriage is full of friction, marriage needs to fight forward, and marriage is meant to be fulfilling to fulfill God’s purpose), spoke the most to you?
4. Both marriage and single life can go through friction. What has been helpful getting through that friction?
5. What are ways you are fighting forward in your marriage?
6. If you are single, what are ways you are fighting forward for your relationship with God?
7. What is something in your relationship that helps keep it sweet, strong, and centered on God?
8. Any additional thoughts on this week’s message?

Week 4 | Sex

Sex is God-given, so it should be God-governed. Whether it blesses you or destroys you depends how you’re holding it and who you’re taking instructions from. So we’re learning what to think about when we think about sex so that we don’t trade what is valuable for what is common.

Icebreaker:
If you had to teach a class on one thing, what would you teach?

Discussion Questions:
1. What stood out to you the most about this message?
2. Was there a quote or verse that stood out in this message?
3. Are you letting God’s Word set the pace of your relationships? Can you think of key verses in your life that have helped set a pace?
4. Everything in life is either a tool or an idol. Do you find that to be true in your own life?
5. Are there areas or things in your life that you are allowing to be an idol rather than a tool? What in life are you using as a tool to worship God?
6. Was there a certain point Pastor made (The origin of sex, the intention of sex, the distortion of sex, the repercussions of sex, and the restoration of sex) that you found to be the most helpful or insightful to you?
7. If you are single, what are you doing to live out the purpose God has given you? If married, what are habits you keep to stay bonded as a couple?
8. Any additional thoughts on this week’s message?

More Resources

Bible Reading Plan - Main Focus

Dating is a complex and messy place. This devotional guide from Ben Stuart will be invaluable to you.

Dating . . . does the word strike anxiety or anticipation in your heart? With all the tech connectivity, it seems that it’s just made dating more complicated, confusing and frustrating than ever before. In this 7-day reading plan based on the updated and revised edition of Single. Dating. Engaged. Married. Ben Stuart will help you see that God has a purpose for this season in your life, and he offers guiding principles to help you determine who and how to date.

AVAILABLE HERE

Additional Bible Plans

Read through each week's devotion guides on the Bible App - be sure to add The Rocks as your church in the Bible app to get notified each week. There are permalinks to each one below.

The Marriage Course - 7 Days

Marriage is designed to be the closest possible relationship of increasing intimacy and growing interdependence. But this is not automatic; we have to keep working at our marriage to stay connected. Adapted from The Marriage Course by Nicky and Sila Lee, this 7-day plan aims to introduce you to tools to build a healthy marriage and strengthen your connection—or to restore your connection if you feel you’ve lost it.

Sex - 7 Days

Sex. There’s more to it than just, “Wait until you’re married!” What happens once you get married? What freedoms do you have? What if you’re married and sex isn’t working? What does the Bible say and not say about it? For answers to these questions and more, start this Bible Plan from finds.life.church.

The below books would be what we recommend to do a full deep dive into everything we are tracking with on Sundays. They are below in order of complexity.

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married

Ben Stuart

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married is a raw and hopeful roadmap for every stage of modern relationships. Ben Stuart unpacks how to pursue love with purpose, not pressure—showing that each season isn’t just a waiting room for the next, but a place where God shapes who you’re becoming. It’s not about finding “the one”; it’s about becoming the kind of person who loves well.

Buy at Koorong

The Mingling of Souls

Matt Chandler

Matt Chandler turns to the Song of Solomon to explore God's design for love and intimacy. Chandler reveals the process Solomon himself followed: through attraction, courtship, even argument! A candid, insightful guide to romance, dating, marriage, and sex.

Buy at Koorong

The Meaning of Marriage

Timothy Keller

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone - Christians, sceptics, singles, long-time married couples, and those about to be engaged - the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.

Buy at Koorong